Today Billy and I are celebrating two years together as husband and wife and while our story has only just begun it also feels like its already been an eternity. As I glanced through all of these photos I can’t help but look back across these last two years and cherish them. They have been filled with some amazing highs and pretty intense lows yet I wouldn’t change any of it. Each day seems to be filled with new opportunities to learn more about the other and while there have been surprises along the way, we continue to draw closer to one another.
We meet with blushing brides each week as they plan the biggest day of their life and we get asked all the time for advice about weddings and marriage. I thought it would be fun for Billy and I to share two things each of us have learned about marriage over the last two years.
1. In pre-martial they talked about “active listening” and before Billy and I were together, I thought I understood what that meant. Billy has taught me to really sit and listen when conflict arises without becoming defensive. It’s important for a healthy relationship to take time to hear what the other person is saying so there can be unity.
2. Let the other person be who they were made to be! Billy is a strong, kind, loving, and brilliant man. Sometimes I want him to be just like me because it’s easy! I’m learning to not bottle-neck him but give him space and encouragement to grow and be the amazing man I married!
1. I spent the first 25 years of my life as an only child training how not to be in a healthy marriage. In other words, it was all about me and what I wanted, and what I’ve quickly learned is that marriage is not about winning but about working together. If I’m honest I felt like Carly was my competition early on. I’ve come to learn that not only is she on my team but she is the strongest asset I have.
2. Don’t stop having fun together. Carly and I really enjoy working together so we kind of lucked out on that one but every chance we get to make the other one laugh – we take it! Every opportunity that comes our way to go on an adventure – we take it! Every spare moment we get to sneak in a date night, watch a movie, or grab a bite to eat – we take it!